Dr. Simon Bobo

𝐒𝐇𝐄 𝐇𝐀𝐒 𝐁𝐄𝐄𝐍 𝐂𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐅𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐘𝐄𝐀𝐑𝐒😱

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Kindly hide my identity doc. Am 35 years old, I have been dating this lady for over ten years now, we have a cute 9 years old boy, for the past 4 years she has been cheating with this guy from her town, I caught her more than 3 times, she denied, and alwys gets angry after I confront her, last year march I caught her chatting with the guy and she told me she was just seeing the guy for money, I asked her if am not offering her enough and she said I will never cover all her needs even though I give her money, what a disrespect. She apologized and pretend like she ended everything with the guy. To my surprise she was caught in April this year by my best friend entering the guesthouse with the same guy, I confronted her and she denied, I told her everything was over, she refused and admitted that she cheated, she apologized, I forgave her, but inside me nothing proves that she ended things with the guy, I was planing to marry her next year, we told parents as well. I don’t trust her anymore, I know things won’t be the same anymore, whenever I think about her am on 🍆 already, she’s attractive but stupid, I have this other lady who have been crushing on me for a while now, she’s well educated and she got a good paying job than me, I only work in a mine as a general worker but she’s a HOD, babeMama doesnt even have a payslip, should I give the new gal a chance and leave this useless babeMama?? Am scared that mybe she’s just doesnt want to compromise her standards, she seems to be serious, but how hard is it to marry someone who gets paid more than me? What should I do? Kindly advise.

𝐖𝐈𝐋𝐋 𝐒𝐇𝐄 𝐁𝐄 𝐀 𝐆𝐎𝐎𝐃 𝐌𝐔𝐌 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐘 𝐊𝐈𝐃𝐒🤔

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my Id. I'm 28 years young with 2 kids from 2 women. I made these kids in my early 20's like 21 and I was young and reckless I admit. But now i have matured and I'm dating a serious lady 26years old and we love so much and she doesnt have a problem with my children both a girl and boy. My challenge is I want to settle down with her but I'm concerned if she can be a good mum to my kids since she doesnt have kids herself. I sometimes feel the girl is kinda possesive and control when she is around and my lady sometimes puts a down like not so happy face but just brushes it of saying kids can be funny. Right now I stay at the backyard flat of our house, my kids also stay with me and I'm the man of the house my dad is late but my mum is still alive and sometimes help with the kids but she is old and also need rest most time. The rest of my siblings 3 of them live in other towns and I'm the last born. I dont know i really need advise whether I should marry this lady and will she be a good mum or maybe let go cause might not bond with my kids well but I love her but I love my kids more.

Real men are watching the World Cup, not ‘the polygamist.’😂

You don't just marry one person once. Over the course of a marriage, you may meet five or more versions of the same person. People grow, change, heal, struggle, mature, and reinvent themselves. Many marriages fail not because people married the wrong person, but because they were unprepared for the different versions of their spouse that life would reveal

There is no Marriage STANDING today that never had a chance to BREAK. And there is no marriage that BROKE that never had a chance to SURVIVE.

Yooo 😱😱😱

𝐖𝐄 𝐃𝐈𝐃 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐑𝐎𝐃𝐔𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐒𝐇𝐄 𝐈𝐒 𝐂𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐖𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐇𝐄𝐑 𝐄𝐗🙆

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my name. I am 30 and my fiancée is 29. We are supposed to get married in December this year. Everything was kinda fine you know the holdiay of April last month at a vacation I saw one night her phone kept vibrating after midnight. I normally don’t check her phone, but something felt strange coz that call kept calling and she was bathing that time around 10pm. I eventually looked coz although I don't have her password I know she uses same password for almost her gadgets and I tried the laptop password which I had and it did work on the phone to my shock I discovered she has been texting her ex-boyfriend almost every night for months. The messages were emotional, flirtatious, and full of memories about their past relationship and the rounds of s*x they used to have it really broke me down to the extend I stormed out of the room because I didn't trust myself I felt I could maybe do bad things. They had to look for me with the security team and eventually found me. I just acted like I needed some space and fresh air. In the morning I eventually spoke as I had made up my mind not to be violent and lose my future as I kept getting those thoughts. When I confronted her, she cried and said it was just emotional closure and that nothing physical happened wara wara but aint buying it. Isn't emotional closure whatever it is also cheating, for me it's cheating. I can tell I love her but I can't move past this issue. I drove from the vacation and dropped her and I was just quite and I have been mute since. She is sending almost everyone she knows I respect or is close to me to forgive her and anything I want to hold feel safe and hold her accountable she is willing to do etc. We did introductions etc but ah man this is hard to forget. Honestly, Doc, should a young man like me still marry a woman whose heart seems attached to someone else which is what I feel? I can't move past the s*x conversations they had and the positions and styles which she has never told me she likes like how she was saying in those smses. Please help me a part of me wants to forgive she sounds genuine in her plea for forgiveness but a part of me feels it might never work

𝐎𝐍𝐋𝐘 𝐖𝐇𝐄𝐍 𝐇𝐄 𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐒𝐄𝐗 𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐋𝐒 𝐌𝐄😱

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my ID. I'm 27 and boyfriend is 40. We both not married. I love him so much cause he is mature and knows how to treat a woman. We have been dating for 4 years now. But this years things are not the same. He hardly shows the committment he was showing these past years if I don't initiate anything he wont he can go quite for a whole week and it's starting to affect me emotionally, only when he wants s*x he will be calling and after s*x he will ghost me suddenly I can't visit him only him visit me. He said he needs some space and prefers coming to me for now. He is paying my rent and everything I need but it was not for that in case people want to comment that it was s*x and money. No its actually a relationship and I have always been to his place. He is single and was married before but got divorced when he was 34 and he said he wanted to take his time before marrying again and I'm young in no rush to marry either. I have not gotten any clue that there is something going on but I'm not sure cause each time I call him he picks anytime like how it has been. He told me last week he is just going through some personal issues but he is not opening up for 3 months now and we are drifting. I really don't know, he spoke of marrying me last year but now he is mute about it.

Knowledge is knowing what to do. Wisdom is knowing when to do it. You need both. In relationships, knowledge is knowing that communication, loyalty, respect, and emotional support are important for a healthy relationship. Wisdom is knowing when to speak, when to stay quiet, when to apologize, and when to walk away from a toxic situation even when you still love the person.

𝐆𝐎 𝐀𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐘 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐖𝐄 𝐒𝐇𝐀𝐋𝐋 𝐒𝐄𝐄😱

𝐃𝐄𝐀𝐑 𝐃𝐑. 𝐒𝐈𝐌𝐎𝐍

Please hide my ID. I'M 30F and boyfriend is 35. We have been dating for 2 years and he wants to marry me and I also feel I'm ready. Everything is fine but I don't want my father to be involved in the marriage process because he was an absent father and abusive to me, my mum and my siblings. They eventually divorced and he wasn't even consisten in providing for us. Mind you I'm the first born and we really don't have a relationship. My boyfriend is insisting we visit him and I don't want at all. I feel he doesn't understand the pain I have in my heart he comes from a loving home and me I don't know that life. So instead I went to see my uncle from my mums side who was very supporting to us and I want him to hand me over. My father head about this and said since your mums brother (my uncle) is your father you can go ahead, he said wont be attending the wedding but we shall see, you won't humiliate me and it ends there, now imagine I told my boyfriend about it instead of standing by me to support me he wants to withdraw because k**a he is scared of witchcraft or his life going bad since my father threatened so. He wants that solved or cleared before moving on...I really don't know me I will never call this my absent father never, he was not there in my life... what should I do really please, the lobola at my uncles place are due next month?.