This Budget is Dope

💸 Why Your Budgeting System Keeps Failing You (And It's Not What You Think)

Can I let you in on something that changed the way I think about money management completely?

It's not about the spreadsheet. It's not about the app. It's not even about the budget itself.

It's about knowing how your brain is wired — and choosing a system that works with that, not against it.

Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies framework was designed to explain how people respond to expectations — both the ones the world places on them and the ones they place on themselves. But when I looked at it through a budgeting lens? Everything clicked.

Here's what each tendency tends to look like with money 👇

The Upholder 📋

Meets both outer and inner expectations. Sets a budget, follows the budget, feels genuinely good about following the budget. You're welcome and also we don't talk about you at budget support group because you don't need one. The risk for Upholders? Rigidity — if the system breaks down temporarily, it can feel like total failure rather than just a Tuesday.

The Questioner ❓

Only follows rules that make sense to them. Will research every budgeting method in existence, read seventeen finance books, and then build their own hybrid system from scratch. Questioners can be brilliant budgeters once they've found their why — but analysis paralysis is real, and "I'll start when I find the perfect system" is a very Questioner trap.

The Obliger 🤝

Meets outer expectations but struggles with inner ones. Brilliant at managing money for others — won't miss a bill, won't let the family down — but chronically last on their own financial priority list. Obligers often need external accountability to make budgeting stick. A money buddy, a visible tracker, or even just telling someone their goal out loud can make all the difference.

The Rebel 🔥

Resists all expectations, including their own. Traditional budgeting — with its categories and rules and "you may not spend more than $47 on coffee this month" energy — is basically designed to make Rebels quit on day three. The secret? Reframe it entirely. It's not a budget. It's a tool that means you can do whatever you want with your money because you actually know what you've got. Freedom, not restriction.

The thing is, most budgeting advice is written by Upholders, for Upholders. Which is great if that's your tendency. But if you're a Rebel who's been beating yourself up for not sticking to a colour-coded spreadsheet, or an Obliger who's never once put themselves first financially — the problem was never you. It was the mismatch.

Knowing your tendency isn't an excuse. It's a starting point.
Which one are you? Drop it in the comments — and if you're not sure, Gretchen Rubin has a free quiz on her website that takes about two minutes. 👇

https://gretchenrubin.com/quiz/the-four-tendencies-quiz/

And while we're talking about knowing how your brain works...🦋

Those of you who've been following along might remember I've also spoken about Cassandra Aarrssen's ClutterBug organising styles — the idea that the way you naturally organise your physical space gives you really valuable clues about how you like to organise everything else in your life, including your money.

Cassandra and Gretchen have actually collaborated recently, which makes complete sense — because between the Four Tendencies and the four Clutterbug styles, you start to get a genuinely detailed picture of how your brain prefers to operate. And that picture is incredibly useful when you're trying to build a money system that actually sticks.

If you haven't explored either framework yet, I'd highly recommend both — because understanding yourself is honestly the best financial investment you can make. 💛

🧠💸 And if you want a budgeting framework actually built around how neurodivergent and non-linear brains work, the free 80/20 Blueprint is a great place to start.

https://stan.store/TheChronicCurator/p/the-8020-blueprint--this-budget-is-dope

The Four Tendencies Quiz | Gretchen Rubin The Four Tendencies Quiz INSTRUCTIONS Consider the following scenarios. Obviously, you might not find yourself in these situations, and you might not react exactly as suggested; choose the answer that sounds like the kind of thing you’d most likely say, do, or think. Choose the answer that seems m...

With ClutterBug – I just got recognised as one of their top fans! 🎉

Apparently Facebook agreed with everything I said about recently 🥇

Top fan badge unlocked. I'll take it. 😂

Cas, if you’re seeing this — I hope you know how much your work is changing how people think about many aspects of their lives, not just how they organise their homes. Turns out Clutterbug types have a lot to say about how people manage their money too. You’re an inspiration ✨

Can I tell you about the moment this all clicked? 💡

I was deep in a Clutterbug rabbit hole — you know, Cas and her four organising styles — when it hit me.

The reason most people fail at budgeting isn't discipline. It's that the system doesn't match their brain.

Cas talks about how some people are visual and need to SEE their stuff to remember it exists. Others need things hidden away or the visual clutter drives them mad. Some people organise in big broad categories (macro). Others need everything broken down into tiny specific buckets (micro). Sound familiar ADHD brains?!

And I thought... that's EXACTLY what's happening with budgets.

A Butterfly (visual macro) does NOT need twelve spending categories and a colour-coded spreadsheet. They need one card, one pot, and a simple rule.

A Cricket (hidden micro) on the other hand? They LOVE the detail. Give them the subcategories. They'll use them.

So I built that into This Budget is Dope — a companion guide that maps your Clutterbug style directly to how many accounts and cards you actually need.

Because the number one reason budgets fail isn't the numbers. It's the system being the wrong shape for the person using it.

Do you know your Clutterbug type? 👀 If you don't, you need to! Drop it below — I'd love to know which style is most represented in this community!

(And if you haven't discovered Cas yet — go find her immediately - ClutterBug She'll change how you see your entire house, and life!)

More to come on the psychology behind This Budget is Dope...

Let's talk about the humble money envelope.

💌 Laughably simple. Surprisingly powerful. And we've never replaced it.

You know the one. A labelled envelope for rent, one for groceries, one for "fun money." Our grandparents swore by them (and so did I back in the late 90s (yes I'm that old)) — and science confirms we were onto something.

Here's why the envelope method actually works:

📦 Compartmentalisation prevents mental accounting errors. When your grocery money lives separately from your night-out money, your brain can't quietly borrow from one to justify overspending in the other. Out of sight truly is out of mind — in both directions.

✋ A hard stop is a hard stop. When the envelope is empty, it's empty. No overdraft, no "I'll sort it out at the end of the month." The limit is visible, physical, and final.

🎯 Intention at the point of allocation. The act of deciding how much goes where — before you spend a cent (or a penny for my US friends) — is where the real budgeting happens. Envelopes force that decision upfront.

The problem? We live in 2026. Most of us haven't touched cash in years. Our money is invisible — notifications, balances, round-up features — and we're all paying the price for it (pun intended).

Which got me thinking — the banking tools to replicate this already exist — no new apps, no subscriptions, no fintech startups. We just need to use what we've already got, differently. And that's exactly what This Budget Is Dope is built around. 🎂

Well, here we are. 🎂

If you've ever tried to budget, failed, felt genuinely terrible about it, and quietly decided you must just be bad with money — this page is for you.

Spoiler: you're not bad with money. The systems you have been using are bad for your brain.

I spent a long time watching traditional financial advice fail people — particularly neurodivergent people — and eventually the penny dropped. I finally worked out what was missing — a way to make real financial progress AND enjoy life at the same time. Turns out you actually can do both!

What started as a lightbulb moment for me has turned into a short blueprint and now this page. Next cab off the rank is a mini book.

The framework is called This Budget is Dope — and the core idea is simple.

You know how crash diets fail because they strip away everything enjoyable until you snap and eat the entire fridge? Traditional budgets do exactly the same thing. Cut out all the fun. Expect people to live on pure discipline. Instruct you to pay every spare cent to your debt until it's gone.

For most brains — and especially for ADHD, AuDHD, and autistic brains — that approach doesn't just fail. It backfires spectacularly.

So instead of the equivalent of a strict financial diet with no flexibility built in, I built a framework around a different idea entirely. You CAN have your cake and eat it too. 🎂

Every pay cycle, once your essential expenses are covered — rent, bills, groceries, all the non-negotiables — whatever's left gets split into two slices. One does the serious work: debt repayment, emergency fund, savings. The other is yours, completely guilt-free, to spend on whatever genuinely brings you joy. No justification required. No earning it first. It's built into the system from the start.

Because you're more likely to stick with something that doesn't make you miserable. And being able to stick with it for the long haul is the whole game.

Here's what's coming on this page:

🎂 Free resources including the 80/20 Blueprint — a quick-start guide to the framework you can set up this week
📖 Behind the scenes of writing the This Budget is Dope mini book
💚 Tips, tools, and real talk about money that works with your brain
🧠 The Four Tendencies, Clutterbug styles, and other frameworks grounded in human psychology that make budgeting feel more personal and less punishing.

If this sounds like something your brain has been waiting for — follow the page, grab the free blueprint at the link below, and tell someone you know who needs this that it exists.

We're just getting started. And I'm so glad you're here. 💚

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👋 Welcome to This Budget is Dope!

So glad you're here. Let me tell you exactly what this page is about.

If you've ever tried to budget, failed, felt terrible about it, and then given up entirely — this page is for you.

While traditional budgeting works for some, it certainly doesn't work for everyone. It tells you to cut out everything enjoyable, live on pure discipline, and pay off every cent of debt before you're "allowed" to enjoy your money again.

For most brains — and especially for neurodivergent brains — that approach doesn't just fail. It backfires.

This Budget is Dope is a different kind of framework. It taps into human psychology by leveraging dopamine (hence the 'dope'). Dopamine is our brain's reward chemical — it's what drives motivation, makes progress feel good, and keeps us coming back to things that bring us pleasure or relief.

This Budget is Dope will let you:

✅ Make real progress on debt and savings
✅ Keep a guilt-free spending allocation every single pay cycle
✅ Use a simple physical (and/or electronic) card system that does the thinking for you - think modern day 'money envelopes'
✅ Track your goals visually so progress actually feels good

All built around the Slay & Spend framework — where your money is split into what slays your debt and what you get to spend on your actual life. At the same time. On purpose.

Because you CAN have your cake and eat it too. 🎂

I'm currently writing the mini book and will be sharing free resources, tips, and behind-the-scenes content right here as it comes together.

Follow the page so you don't miss a thing. And if you know someone who's tired of budgets that don't work for their brain — share this with them. 💚

This budget? It's dope. And so are you. 🖤