Confident Mums

It’s easier said than done (I know), however it is a good reminder to practice! Pause to breath before saying or doing anything else! 🧘🏻‍♀️💗

Dear Parents,

Some of your children have started / returned or about to get back to school and I would like to ask you a favour. ⬇️⬇️⬇️

💫Please sit down with your child for 5 minutes and explain to them that being tall, or short, chubby, skinny, curly, kinky, straight or red-haired, black, white or other shade of skin color and any characteristic in between, is not a joke or something to be made fun of.

💫We are all unique and that’s what makes us all different on the outside, but inside we all have feelings and like to love and be loved!

💫Explain that there is nothing wrong with wearing the same pair of shoes every day no matter the brand. Explain to them that a used rucksack / bag no matter the brand carries the same dreams as a new one.

💫Please teach them not to exclude anyone for "being different to them" or for not having the same possibilities.

💫Teach them to not tease and belittle others just because they don’t like the same thing as them. Different is ok.

💫Explain to them that teasing hurts forever and that they go to school to LEARN, not to deliberately hurt others.

💫Teach them how to be KIND, loving, and independent.

💫Teach them to include the child standing/sitting/eating alone.

💫Prepare them to have hurtful things said and done to them and to walk away without retaliation, however encourage them to always speak to a trusted adult to express themselves!

💫Let them know they are strong, brave, kind, caring, helpful, and capable of anything they want to do.

💫Remind them that they matter and that their gifts will impact the world.

EDUCATION BEGINS AT HOME.
Happy academic year to your child and best success to them and you! 💗🥂😁

🏫 🚌 🎒 🍎 📚 📖 📙 🎒💗

That has been one of the biggest lessons, accept them for who they are, even if it’s not what we imagined, however we are all unique and we learn to adapt and respect their identity!

We must lead them towards the best path, as long they are aware and part of that decision, so they can explore better the world around them!

Let children be children, and encourage them to express themselves vocally, stand up for themselves, their rights and values and grow into a confident adult! 💗

💫To all the parents out there who think they are not enough……this is for you 😍😘

*copied from another post*

💫A few days ago while at the pool I watched a young Mama and her little daughter enter the pool area dressed in very nice coordinating swimming suits.

💫The mom, with her perfect loose curls tied up in a coordinating scarf, spent the first few minutes talking loudly on her phone to a friend while her daughter stood waiting to get into the pool.

💫Mom ended the phone call and proceeded to spread out pool toys and sunscreen on a matching towel.

💫Then after finding just the right angle and the right light, Mama pulled out her tripod and took a few selfies with her daughter.

Little One asked to get in the pool.

💫Mama said wait and then posed her daughter in front the pool, then going in to the pool and then coming back out of the pool.

Little one smiled big and said "cheese" like she'd done it a million times.
Then Mama told her she could play.

Little One walked in and swam around for a couple of minutes.

💫Mama called a friend on her phone and began another conversation while Little One politely and repeatedly asked "Mama, can you come in the water with me, please?"
She was ignored.

"Mama, come play with me?" she asked 4 more times.

Mama glanced over at her but never got off the phone.

💫After 10 minutes Mama ended her call, collected the sunscreen that was never applied, the water toys that never touched the water, and then her daughter and left the pool.

I sat there thinking about what I'd witnessed for awhile afterwards.

I imagined the photos she took being perfectly edited and posted to social media with a caption like
"Pool time with my girly! ".

💗Somewhere another Mama is going to be at home with her children, the house a mess from their play, her hair unruly from a day of mothering and her clothes dirty with spit up or peanut butter.

💗She's going to be tired because she's spent her day cooking, caring, cleaning and playing with her children.

💗She's going to look at that photo and she is going to compare herself to the perfect Mama at the pool.

💗The Adversary is going to whisper into her ear "you aren't good enough... You don't look like that Mama at the pool... You don't have money to buy expensive swimming suits like that and you don't have time to make memories like she is" and that young Mama is going to believe it.

💗She's going to feel like a failure.

💗She'll never know that how she spent her time that day was so much better in her children's eyes than that "perfect Mama" at the pool.

💗What we see on Social Media isn't always real. Sometimes and often it's a complete set-up. It's staged and filtered and it's counterfeit.

💗Sometimes we do see absolutely real photos of vacations and beautiful homes and freshly done hair but it's only ONE moment.

💗It's the very best moment out of a whole day spent much like our own. Working, cleaning, and messes...

Mamas, don't compare yourself.

💗You ARE enough! You are amazing and the very best part is that you are REAL!

💗Your dirty shirt and your messy house and your happy children are real and they are proof that you are doing it right!

Keep confident at what you are doing! 💗💪🏽

Self-control is a strength, Calmness is a Mastery!
How does it get any better than this?
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💐Happy Mother’s Day to all Mothers here 💐

🌻Praise yourself not only today but everyday, for giving up your body image and growing a little human inside you, some once, some multiple times, for the multi tasking roles you have on your daily basis, for the continuous stress and worries we deal with!

🌻The constant physical, emotional and mental energy we need to keep on top of everything!

🌻To all mothers that can’t conceive and choose to adopt, foster, you are amazing too!

🌻To all single mothers that have to balance family, home, work and studies!

🌻You are doing an extremely amazing JOB, you are UNIQUE & POWERFUL!

💗And remember, it might seem a lonely role but you are not alone on this journey of parenting!

🌻P.s
Even thou not all relationships with parents are blossom, I want to share my gratitude with my mother, thanks to her unplanned pregnancy of me, I’m here growing and developing the next future generation!

🌻Proud to be a daughter and mother to my precious children! 🤗💗💐👩‍👧‍👦

Much love to you all 🥰

SG- Confident Mums 💗😁