How did the self-development world become so exhausting?
More information. More tools. More routines. More techniques.
(More, more, more...Bleurghhhh 🤪)
Don't get me wrong, I'm part of it too. I love learning. I love a good podcast, a new idea and understanding more about how we work as humans.
But somewhere along the way, it feels like we've turned self-development into a quest to become someone or sonething else.
And I can't help but wonder...
What if we're chasing something we're actually leaving behind, not moving towards?
At our core, human bodies need moments of safety.
Moments where we're not trying to improve, optimise or upgrade ourselves.
Perhaps that's one of the reasons humans have gathered around fire for thousands of years.
For most of our existence, fire wasn't an occasional luxury. It was central to human life. A place to gather, rest, tell stories and simply be together.
Maybe that's why something stirs in us when we sit beside it.
Not because we're learning something new, but because we're reconnecting with something ancient.
Perhaps our nervous systems recognise these moments as familiar.
A gentle reminder that we were never designed to be switched on all the time.
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Tansy in the Wild
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Hey, I'm so glad our paths have crossed....
Do love to spend time in Nature? Clients come to me feeling lost.
Outdoor Life Coach, Forest Bathing Guide and TEDx Speaker devoted to sharing the power and importance of Nature connection for wellbeing, personal growth and the collective health of the Natural World. Do you intuitively feel the connection and sense of freedom you experience when you step into wild space and away from the daily demands of life? Would you like to be able to flow more freely in you
05/06/2026
Long before we lived in houses, sat in offices or carried smartphones, we evolved in direct relationship with the natural world.
For thousands of generations, our ancestors woke with the rising sun, moved across landscapes, drank from rivers, sheltered beneath trees and lived in rhythm with the seasons.
The natural world wasn't somewhere they visited.
It was home.
Perhaps that's why so many of us feel something shift when we step outside.
Our breathing slows. Our shoulders soften. We feel more present, more grounded, more ourselves.
Not because Nature is performing some magical trick.
But because the body recognises something the mind has forgotten.
A relationship that has existed for far longer than modern life.
A relationship that reminds us we belong here too.
🌿 This reflection is inspired by themes I explore in The First Remembering.... a self-guided journey for those longing to slow down, reconnect and remember their place within the natural world.
https://www.tansyinthewild.com/the-first-remembering
I am so unbelievably proud to be part of the team/family at ....an incredible CIC in Hawkhurst delivering respite and restoration for women and men in the emergency services and the armed forces.
This is getting back to Nature and back to basics at its finest.
A magnificent base camp fire to gather around, hammocks with tarps to sleep in amd a warm safe sense of belonging and community.
This was my 3rd time volunteering here. This time a womens weekend with Mindful movement and Forest Bathing. Creating vital space for burnt out nervous systems who need community and acceptance without performance.
Although I facilitated part of it, I needed that pause too. Sleeping in a hammock and waking with the dawn chorus sound bath was pure medicine for my nervous system.
Thank you Jason, Phillipa and Martin you are incredible and I am beyond grateful to be able to contribute 🙏💚🌿
If you know of anyone in the emergency services and armed forces that might benefit from this kind of tkme out then please share details with them. They run monthly weekend sessions for men and women. Proper down to earth, safe space to exhale and restpre 💚💚💚