25/08/2022
Growing up, people who were loud or talkative (like me) were often punished for it. Maybe it was by being a permanent member of the noisemakers list or being told passive aggressive comments by the adults near you that filled you with shame about your kiherehere or in my native tongue muhahi. Quiet children somehow never got into trouble. Maybe they were silent because they had learned quickly that it was better to keep your thoughts, opinions and desires to yourself. Children were to be seen and not heard.
And then guess what. We became experts at not voicing our needs, concerns, desires. And then now get angry because somehow others do not meet our expectations.
There’s no relationship without communication. A key component of all coaching sessions with my clients includes working with people on how improve communication with others, advocate for themselves, learn to actively listen and most importantly learn how to resolve issues that are usually not being addressed.
