Blissful Relationship and Marriage Academy

HOW CAN I MAKE MY RELATIONSHIP WORK? I AM TIRED OF DISAPPOINTMENTS 😢

Why do you think relationships are failing easily nowadays?

7 Lessons on How to Control Your S.3xual Urges: Donald’s Story- Abiodun Aremo

Inability to control s3xual urge has made some young people involved in risky s*xual behaviors.

Below are remaining ways to control your s3xual urge for s*xual purity or integrity.

Lesson 4: Change Your Environment
One night Donald was lying in bed scrolling through his phone when temptation became overwhelming. Then he remembered something I said:

"Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is stand up and leave the environment."

🔹He got out of bed.
🔹He put his phone in another room.
🔹He went for a walk and listened to worship music.

Within thirty minutes, the intensity had significantly reduced.

He learned that many temptations lose strength when you change locations, activities, or focus.

Lesson 5: Build Accountability
Donald found two mature Christian brothers he trusted, which I am one. We agreed to check on one another regularly.

Knowing someone would ask him difficult questions made a tremendous difference.
Temptation grows in secrecy but weakens in the light.

As the Bible says:
"Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another." (James 5:16). That is accountability.

(You can join our S.exual Integrity Accountability Community. Comment or message me)

Lesson 6: Feed the Spirit Daily
Donald discovered that victory was not won only during moments of temptation. It was won in daily habits.

He committed himself to:
🔹Prayer
🔹Bible study
🔹Worship
🔹Fasting
🔹Christian fellowship

When temptation came, he had spiritual strength already stored up.

Jesus said:
"Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation." (Matthew 26:41)

Lesson 7: Don't Give Up After Failure
There were times Donald still stumbled.
In the past, he would condemn himself and drift away from God.

But he learned a new response:
🔹Repent quickly.
🔹Receive God's forgiveness.
🔹Learn from the failure.
🔹Get back up and don't go back.

He realized that the enemy often uses shame more effectively than temptation.
Every time Donald returned to God, he became stronger and wiser.

The Result
After several years, Donald noticed something remarkable. The urges had not completely disappeared. But they no longer controlled him.

He had learned that s.3xual self-control is not the absence of desire; it is the ability to submit desire to God's purpose.

His victory came through:
🔹Dependence on God
🔹Renewing his mind
🔹Healthy habits
🔹Accountability
🔹Wise boundaries
🔹Perseverance

And whenever young believers asked him how to control s.3xual urges, he would smile and say:

"You don't defeat s.3xual temptation in a single moment. You overcome it through daily choices, God's grace, and a life filled with purpose. The urge may knock, but you decide whether the door opens."

Key Scripture
"I discipline my body and bring it into subjection." — 1 Corinthians 9:27

Daily Declaration
"By the help of the Holy Spirit, I am not controlled by my desires. My body is God's temple. I walk in purity, self-control, and victory through Christ Jesus. Amen."

Kindly give a like, comment, follow or share to bless someone.



Aremo
S.exual Integrity Crusader
Covenant Family Ministry

Join our Whatsapp channel:
https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VaFjajO59PwRcrViW30Z

Join our page
https://www.facebook.com/share/1Eo9wVeM6R/

Relationship Lesson Series 1 Abiodun Aremo

"He Said 'I Love You' Every Day... Until the Day He Left"

For three years, Sarah heard the words every day. "Baby, I love you." Morning calls. Goodnight texts. Public displays of affection.

Then one day, she discovered he had been seeing another woman for months. As she sat on her bed crying, one question haunted her: "If he loved me, why did he hurt me?"

Lesson:
Love is not proven by words. It is proven by character, consistency, sacrifice, and commitment.

Reflection:
"Sometimes the loudest 'I love you' comes from someone whose actions are whispering goodbye."

Is this your experience? Do you need to talk to someone?

Like, comment, save or share to bless someone.


Covenant Family Ministry ®️

How to Control Your S.exual Urges (7 Lessons): Donald’s Story

S.exual urge is not bad and neither is it a sin. Your response to it will determine if you'll master it or become its slave.

Donald was a young man in his late twenties. He loved God, served faithfully in church, and desired to live a life of purity. Yet there was a battle he rarely talked about—strong s.3xual urges.

Some days were easier than others. But on lonely nights, after scrolling through social media, or when he felt stressed and discouraged, the urges became intense. He often prayed, "Lord, why won't these feelings just disappear?"

One evening, after another frustrating struggle, Donald called me.

"Sir, I love God, but these urges keep coming. What is wrong with me?"

I replied, "Nothing is wrong with you. S..3xual desire is part of how God created you. The challenge is not having the urge; the challenge is learning to manage it in a godly way."

That conversation changed Donald's perspective.

7 Lessons to Learn from My Conversation with Donald

Lesson 1: Understand That Urges Are Not Commands

Donald realized that an urge is like a knock on the door. Just because someone knocks does not mean you must open the door.

He learned that feelings are real, but they are not masters. When temptation came, instead of panicking, he would tell himself:
"I feel this urge, but I do not have to obey it."

The urge often lost some of its power when he stopped treating it like an emergency.

Lesson 2: Run Toward Something, Not Just Away From Something

For years Donald focused only on avoiding sin. "Don't watch this." "Don't think that." "Don't do this." But I challenged him:

"What are you building your life around besides resisting temptation?"

Donald began filling his life with purpose:
🔹Exercise
🔹Reading
🔹Ministry
🔹Learning new skills
🔹Serving others
🔹Communicating with me (his accountability partner)

A busy, purposeful life did not eliminate temptation, but it reduced the amount of idle time available for it to grow.

Lesson 3: Identify the Triggers

Donald started keeping a journal. Soon he noticed a pattern:

🔹He was more tempted when he was lonely.
🔹He was more vulnerable when tired.
🔹Certain movies and social media accounts stirred lust.
🔹Stress often increased his cravings.
🔹He discovered that many of his "s.3xual problems" were actually loneliness, boredom, exhaustion, and anxiety wearing a s.3xual mask.

Once he identified the triggers, he could address the real issue.

(What trigger are you battling with? Drop it in the comment or message me)

Key Scripture

"I discipline my body and bring it into subjection." — 1 Corinthians 9:27

Daily Declaration

"By the help of the Holy Spirit, I am not controlled by my desires. My body is God's temple. I walk in purity, self-control, and victory through Christ Jesus. Amen."

Kindly give a like, comment, follow or share to bless someone.

©️ Abiodun Aremo
S.3xual Integrity Crusader
Covenant Family Ministry

To be continued tomorrow. Thanks for reading.

In the 3rd year of our marriage, my wife and I had a very tough misunderstanding that degenerated into a week long bitterness, resentment and malice.

As things continued to get worse, I became uneasy and had to consult with my mentor.

I told him everything that happened and he gave me a simple counsel, or let me say, an instruction.

He said, "Son, go and beg your wife".

My head turned imaginarily 360 degrees wondering if my mentor understood all I said.

But I had made up mind that I would ALWAYS listen to and obey my mentor as long as what he says does not contradict scriptural principles and good sense.

So, I swallowed my pride and looked for an opportunity to apologize to my wife.

The outcome was dramatic. I was surprised to see how easily my wife also apologized.

That was how we chased the devil out of our home.

This devil wasn't the devil who lives in hell but the one who lives in our individual ego and personal pride. It was the devil who hides under the spirit of unforgiveness to rob us of the peace, love and joy we were supposed to experience in our marriage.

After that event, I took out time to wait on the Lord, and in one of those days, I got engaged through my spirit's communion with the Holy Spirit.

Then, the question came, 'Do you know that it takes two people to quarrel in a relationship or marriage? No matter how quarrelsome one partner is, if the other is not interested, do you know there will never be a quarrel?'

I nodded in agreement.

Then, the instruction came, 'For you to enjoy continuous peace, love and harmony in your marriage, make up your mind to always pay the price of peace'.

I got the message, loud and clear!

I rose up from that encounter and our home has never been the same.

I made up my mind that I would ALWAYS pay the price of peace, no matter how much it deals with my pride and ego.

I intentionally forgot about who or what I was, and rather focused on having a beautiful home, where everyone is happy to grow, love and thrive.

This simple principle chased the devil out of our home till date.

With time, my wife began to learn from me and now, she pays more price of peace than I am paying, our heart is knitted in love pursuing the same purpose.

A positive attitude is contagious, so is a negative one.

A happy marriage is not automatic, no one is guaranteed a good home; it comes from being intentional about what you want.

You may have a difficult partner but the Bible says you should pay the price of peace. Jesus said you are blessed for being a peacemaker.

You may not see the result in one month or one year but it will come.

I grew up seeing chaos in my parents' marriage but I saw my Mum and Dad at different times always making out for peace. It took them 16 years to chase the devil out.

When you see my Dad and Mum today, you will admire their relationship. They have become a good model for ours.

Chase the devil of pride and ego out of your relationship or marriage, pay the price of peace, embrace love and forgiveness and you will be happy ever after.

I hope this helps your relationship and marriage to thrive and flourish.

Cheers!
__________
Dr. John S. Balogun

https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VaFjajO59PwRcrViW30Z

What did you learn too late in life?

Advice Needed:
"My husband likes it from An**ssss"

Sir Kelvin, I had to summon courage to post this. And if you don’t post it, I won’t be happy with you. I have sent this four times.

I have a very peaceful and loving husband.
My husband doesn’t b£ãt me, he doesn’t cheat in fact he is a perfect example of what a husband should be.

But my problem is that he prefers s*ggs through the an*sssss.
When this started, I felt this would stop.
It started when we were dating and somehow I felt it would stop. I allowed it because he claimed he loves to explore.

In fact, he won’t enjoy it if I don’t give it to him.
And would keep mælice when i refuse.
I opened a new account to send you this so you won’t know who sent it. I am an active follower here, and if I post with my handle you’d know.
I am a full time community member here.

I don’t know who to share this with.
I feel ashamed even typing this.

Please, I need help. What’s the best remedy to make him stop? This has been going on since we got married.
We have a son together it has become normal that I can’t count how many times we did mekew through the normal route.

Is there anyone that has gone through this?
Biko, help a fellow woman.
Please help me, please, I am pleading, I am
no longer enjoying this.

Copied.

Pls drop advice in comment

Your Wife Get Turned On From The Mind Down.

You want her wet and wanting more of you?

Set the tone.
Start in the morning; not at night.
Start in the kitchen. Not the bedroom.
Start with how you treat her.
Let her feel loved.

— help with chores.
— Speak gently.
— Smell good.
— Touch softly.
— Be a lover boy.

Give her a reason to want more of you, not just your body.

Good s.ex starts with intention.

Its
For educational purpose