Bloom & Become with Peace

Stop Explaining!

One thing self worth teaches you is this:

Not everybody has to understand you.
Not everybody has to agree with you.

And not every misunderstanding needs a 5-page explanation. Yes oo.

Sometimes you simply smile, focus on your growth, and keep moving.

Peace is expensive these days.

Tell me in the comments, what's something you've stopped trying to prove in your journey?

I remember a conversation I had with a woman years ago when I was still in Naija.

That day, we were talking, and somehow the conversation drifted to marriage and life.

I looked at her and said, How are you even coping?

Because the woman I knew before marriage was confident, outspoken, full of ideas, and not afraid to express herself.

She laughed and said, "Peace, that's exactly what people don't understand."

Then she became serious.

She said, "Before I got married, I had ideas. I could talk. I knew what I wanted. I believed in myself."

Then she paused.

She said, "I don't even know when it happened.

Nothing dramatic happened.
It was just little things over the years.
Little by little, I stopped speaking up.
Little by little, I stopped trusting my own voice."

I sat there listening.

Then she said something that stayed with me.

She said, "One day I looked at myself and realized I was no longer the woman I used to be."

That conversation came back to me while I was writing Who Pours into the Woman Who Pours.

This book is not just about emotional exhaustion.

It's also about the ways people slowly lose themselves, forget their worth, and become shadows of who they once were.

If you've ever looked at your life and wondered, "What happened to me?" or "Where did the confident version of me go?" then this book is for you.

The link to get your copy is in the comments or my bio.

And if you know someone who needs this message, please share this post with them.

Self-worth doesn't only affect how you see yourself.

It affects what you tolerate.

The opportunities you pursue.

The way you allow people to treat you.

And the standards you set for your own life.

Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of potential.

Sometimes it's forgetting what you're worth.

What do you think self worth influences the most?

Most people don't lose their self-worth overnight.

They lose it little by little.

By constantly putting themselves last.

By accepting less than they deserve.

By comparing themselves to everyone else.

By staying where they are tolerated instead of appreciated.

By waiting for other people to tell them they are enough.

The truth is, self-worth is not something people give to you.

It's something you learn to recognize in yourself.

Which of these do you think affects people the most?

Have this cross your mind?

Sometimes you don’t notice emotional imbalance until you stop overgiving and start paying attention.

That’s when you realize some people were more connected to your effort than to you.

Have you noticed?

The moment you stop overgiving, some people suddenly stop overchecking on you too... Mmmmm

No more: “How are you?” “Hope you’re fine?” “Just checking on you.”

What happened to the connection biko?

That means the connection was surviving on your effort. Chai!

Have you experienced it before, comment yes.

P.S.. My pr***en said she's finer than me in this picture.

Who fine pass? Me or her.