Anything But Vanilla CNM Life

Let’s be silly this Saturday!

Let me pose for you now 😎

Nothing mentally prepares you for time at the family friendly Neighborhood pool when you’re used to spending time at the clothing, optional resorts!

Stay strong pineapples! This too shall pass until we are back to all of our freedoms.



Actual footage of me trying to flirt with a pretty woman 🍟

I’ve got tips and tricks and advice for a lot of things but flirting with a woman…I suck at that 🫣😂

Take the chance. Make the first move.

No one enjoys rejection, but sometimes the opportunities you’re hoping for are waiting on the other side of a simple conversation.

Whether it’s in the Lifestyle or just everyday life, putting yourself out there can feel uncomfortable. But if you never take the chance, you’ll never know what might have happened.

A new friendship, a great connection, an amazing experience… it all starts with someone being brave enough to say hello.

✨ Take the chance. You might surprise yourself. ✨

Friendly reminder for anyone who needs it today:

💜You’re amazing.
✨You’re worthy.
💜You’re making a bigger impact than you realize.
✨You’re loved.
💜You’re a complete rock star.

Now straighten that crown, grab your coffee or tea (or Dr. Pepper) and go be your fabulous bad-ass self.

The world can adjust. 😘

It is not your job to ensure everyone else’s comfort.

Not everyone will understand your light.

Not everyone is supposed to.

✨ Shine anyway. ✨

Curious about the Lifestyle but not sure where to start 🤷‍♀️

That’s okay!

You don’t have to dive in headfirst. In fact, most people don’t.

Start by learning.
✨Ask questions
✨Listen to podcasts
✨Join communities
✨Attend an event just to observe.

Take things at a pace that feels comfortable for you and your relationship.

The Lifestyle isn’t about pressure, keeping up with anyone else, or doing things before you’re ready.

It’s about communication, consent, connection, and discovering what works for YOU.

So if you’re thinking about dipping your toe in the water, welcome. We’re here to help make those first steps a little less intimidating. 💜

What questions do you have about getting started?

It’s Finally Friday and if you watch to the end it’s a Funny Face Friday too.

Yes, those drinks are aweful but…tradition and IYKYK (right 😎)

Cheers to haveing an amazing weekend either with your tribe or maybe even just by yourself if needed!

Lifestyle or not…

Always have fun 😎

Because if you’re not having fun, you may not be in the right place…or with the right people.

The best moments happen when you stop forcing things, relax, laugh, and enjoy the energy around you✨

Not everyone has to be loud.
Not everyone has to post.
Not everyone has to be public.

And that’s okay. ❤️

But for some of us, being open is about helping remove the shame, stigma, and fear around living authentically.

Because there are still people quietly questioning themselves…
wondering if they’re too different,too much, too unconventional,
or if they’ll be judged for simply being honest about what makes them happy.

Sometimes all it takes is seeing someone confidently living their truth to realize:

maybe I don’t have to hide in the shadows either. ☀️