Mind Torque

What will come, will come!

A thought is just that - a thought, however YOU make it more so with your FEAR!

Let go and just accept what is coming....
No " what if's" or "Should I"
Just acceptance❣️

DETACHMENT

Detachment is a powerful mental health tool that everyone should learn...….

Once you learn the art of detaching YOU will find a sense of calmness and focus on self!

However, it does take work!

When your peace comes from within - life's changes can shake you, however they will not destroy you.

When your attachment to something or someone is strong - fear, desperation, and insecurity often drive your choices.

People leave.
Situations end.
Emotions shift.
S**t happens........

Detachment teaches you to move with life's changes instead of fighting them.

Didn't know I was reacting.

Didn't know I was begging.

Didn't know I was chasing

Didn't know I was forcing.

Didn't know I was holding on so tight.

Understand that detachment does not make you stop caring—it teaches you how to care without losing yourself.

To love yourself
Choose yourself first
Believe in yourself

When you stop gripping life so bloody tightly, you finally have room to breathe, grow, and stay at peace even when life changes.

Its when you STOP chasing approval.....
Forcing outcomes, and
trying to control what was never yours to control.
The tighter you cling, the more you struggle.

💥The more you pause, breathe and let go, the lighter and calmer you will become.

True power is not controlling others - It is controlling your emotions.

Peace begins the moment YOU stop fighting reality and start accepting what is YOURS......

Holding life gently my friends.....

Namaste ❣️
Vivienne

LISTENING really listening to each other is a skill many of us do not know how to do as we are too busy thinking about our own EXPECTATIONS and ASSUMPTIONS.

And unfortunately not everyone is looking for solutions.

Sometimes, you will find people aren’t just searching for answers, they are searching for understanding.

We often rush to fix, to advise, to correct…however, we forget that people actual may need to be feel heard.

When we see someone going through something that we may have already gone through ourselves, we are often tempted to give advice drawing from our own experiences, and forget the simple fact that sometimes people just need someone to LISTEN to them, instead of being told what to do.

We all have a different set of experiences in our past that we draw from and apply to our view of the world - perspective!.

BE A BETTER LISTENER!

Being a good listener is part of being a good and honest friend.

People are rarely ever born with great wisdom, and no one will make the best decisions for themselves all of the time and part of truly loving and being a friend is realizing this.

You don't have to support a person's pain / hurt, however be willing to put your advice / opinion aside sometimes and give people what they really need......
A hug for warmth
An ear for listening
And a shoulder to cry on.
And time to just hang out with them!

We all struggle at times and sometimes we just need that space to be heard.

How do you feel when you need someone to LISTEN to you?

Be a quiet presence - actively listening can heal more than a thousand words ever could.

Listen without judging.

Being present without trying to control.

Understand without needing to reply.

That’s real connection.

So next time someone opens up to you, don’t think about what to say…just LISTEN.

Because sometimes,
that’s more than enough.

Communication is indeed an essential key, however so is COMPREHENSION!

Most people are actually thinking about what they will "reply" while the other person is talking.

REAL LISTENING means in order to take in what is said, you need to close your mouth and open your ears, NOT close your ears and open your mouth - LISTEN!!!

Both communication and comprehension are skills that can be improved with practice.

LISTENING to a person's tone and what the other person is saying is something we also need to be mindful about.

In listening we gain knowledge about what the other person is trying to convey.

True listening reflects humility and care and it strengthens relationships and deepens understanding.

LISTEN CAREFULLY❤️

PS - never talk poorly to each other... EVER!

Be better for yourself and your love ones.

Be the love the world needs and listen.

Love and light
Vivienne
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This is such an important TRUTH.......

Always stay true to who you really are - your inner authentic self!

Family and friends will always hold different versions of you in their minds, shaped by their experiences, their truths and perspective of you.

And that's fine, however learn to be absolutely comfortable in your own skin.
Know who you are.....
And understand deeply that what people do is never a reflection of you it is always their perception of life
Their view......

You may have spent you're life adjusting yourself just to be accepted.....
Or always seeking and performing for approval...
Or feel the need for recognition and acceptance?

Whether its a friend or family's expectation (acceptance) it can be made into one of the quietest prisons that hold you!

We often exhaust ourselves trying to manage how others perceive us and a lot of people settle because they are afraid of losing someone, starting over, being alone, or asking for too much.

However, at some point you have to....

Walk away from places and people that drain you - take more than give!

Let go of relationships that confuse and hurt you.

Let go of situations that make you question your worth.

And....
STOP chasing other people’s approval and start living for yourself.

STOP needing everyone to agree with you.

STOP trying to clear every misunderstanding from those that aren’t looking for the truth.

STOP exhausting yourself trying to prove yourself to people who are committed to doubting it.

STOP explaining your heart to people who are never willing to see it clearly in the first place.

PEACE is found and begins when YOU truly know who you are.
You know your intentions and stop settling for things your soul already knows are not meant for you.

Not everyone will understand your path.
Your silence.
Your boundaries.
Your growth.
YOU!

YOU have to release yourself from the need for other people’s opinions, assumptions, or the versions of yourself they might hold in their minds.

Some will see your best moments, others will only remember your worst....
You can’t control that, and you don’t need to.

❣️True peace comes when you choose to stand in your truth quietly and understand that not everything deserves your energy, and not everyone deserves your explanation.

The moment you stop accepting less than what truly feels right for you… everything changes.

You stop begging for the bare minimum love.

You stop shrinking yourself to keep people comfortable / happy.
They my beautiful have already decided what they want to believe.
And when you understand that, something shifts.

❣️YOU will know when its time to step away from those people that are draining your vibrational energy

❣️YOU will come to understand what matters is staying grounded in who you know yourself to be and continuing to grow into that truth.

And that will become more important than anyone else’s approval or opinion.
This will be when other people’s validation loses its power over you.

PERSONAL NOTE.... Self-awareness is more valuable than applause.

The bravest and strongest people are not the most admired.
They are the ones who remain true to themselves even when misunderstood.

❣️At those times / moments when you are not included, invited, or considered, whisper to yourself.....
“Thank you for the space necessary in my life for the people that matter most to me - I am grateful and very blessed.”

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When life gets chaotic or things don’t go as planned, that doesn’t mean you need to give up and throw in the towel.

I've learnt the secret is in being CONSISTENT and PATIENT.

Shrink it.
Make it smaller.
Use the 10 minutes you DO have on your busy day to get things done.
One step forward, no matter how small, is still one step forward.

STOP waiting for the perfect mood......
Having the perfect morning, or the perfect time to keep the promises you made with yourself.

Sometimes, choosing YOU just needs a little peace and patience over perfection.

Not every flaw needs to be pointed out, and
Not every mistake needs to become a conflict.
Not everything needs to get done.

Learn to accept you will have days that are imperfect and this will bring more peace into your life.

This doesn't mean tolerating harmful behavior for yourself —it means learning to let go of minor faults and focusing on what truly matters.

Acceptance often brings the peace that constant berating yourself never will.

There is power in knowing what you are capable of and deciding not to become it.

Use the time you do have too get things done with consistency and patience.

Namaste ❤️

Good morning Beautiful,

Are you choosing to be a victim, blaming others for why your life is not turning out the way you want it too?

Let me tell you my friend the moment you....
STOP blaming others...
STOP being a victim is the moment your life will start to change.

When you chose the victim mentality (the mindset of a victim) it allows you to PUT OFF being responsible for making any changes you need to make to better yourself and your life.

You have a choice as you travel through life to be BETTER or BITTER.

💥You need to understand, firstly, if YOU really want to achieve what you set your mind to (your dreams) your mindset must be one of COMMITMENT not excuses!

There are things you can do to strengthen the believe in yourself......

STOP and let go.....

💥Your past - this is where you learn your lessons and not to wallow in what happens to you.

💥Your parents - they did the best they could with the tools they had. Unfortunately, many parents hurt their children - intentionally and / or unknowingly.
No one is perfect - we all make mistakes, some more than others, however what matters is that YOU learn, grow, and choose to love yourself better every day - not be bitter!

💥SEEK to understand YOUR own mind, observe, have faith in your own aspirations and dreams.

💥SEEK to understand rather than judge.

💥Your circumstances are not to blame.

💥Forgive mistakes, but not harmful patterns - learn from them.

💥Yes, people have hurt you, however do not set up camp within your self pity.

💥The world is unfair and life's a bitch - let go and just maybe all the things that have happened to you have play a part in building who you have become.....

The truth that nobody wants to hear is....
YOU are not responsible
for what happened to you - however, YOU are completely responsible for what you do next in life....

You can moan and groan - be the victim all you like!

However, YOU, my friend are the author of your life, so begin by turning your life around and take the first step in recognising that you are choosing the victim mode.....
Then secondly, its about finding the trigger(s) that start the process of the victim mode emerging.

In the meantime STOP pointing fingers.
Blaming keeps you stuck. OWNING sets you free.
Every choice you make today
is building the life you will live tomorrow.

Every perspective you hold
is either opening doors to opportunities and powerful possibilities
or they are staying shut because YOU are blinded by your victim mentality.

Nobody can think for you.
Nobody can choose for you.
Nobody lives your life
but you.

The difference between growth and stagnation is self-awareness and your mindset!

Successful people don’t hide behind “that’s just who I am.”

Recognize your flaws.....
Take responsibility, and work on becoming better every day for YOU!
SELF LOVE
Stop waiting for someone
to come fix what is broken.
Stop blaming the past
for where you are standing today.

Growth starts the moment you stop making excuses.

Your life
Your choices
Your responsibility
Your power

Its up to you to want to be better.
Do better.
Choose better.
And make better decisions for YOU.

Own it completely - no excuses!

Namaste ❤️
Vivienne

Imagine all the ways your life would change if you ALLOWED yourself to believe.....
❣️YOU ARE WORTHY
❣️YOU ARE DESERVING
❣️YOU can take control of your thoughts, and unlock the power within you!

Allowed yourself to BELIEVE in you.
Allowed yourself to be LOVED the way you want to be loved.
Allowed yourself the capacity for more.
Allowed yourself to create your dreams.
Allowed yourself to heal from your past.
Allowed yourself to acknowledge how far you’ve come.

💥Imagine if you allowed yourself to be, to have, to do, to receive everything you are asking for.....
To see and believe in your greatness, in your power, in your infinite potential!

Start today by choosing positivity and taking charge of your life.

FOCUS on your goals and aspirations, opportunities and possibilities, empower yourself to make intentional decisions to drive positive change.

💥Really sit with this and think about what you want from life....

💥Make sure you look out for the sneaky ways you are blaming others, your circumstances or past for how your life is turning out.
Do not be a VICTIM in life.

If you are looking to have more in your life - take a gentle, honest look at all the ways you could be denying yourself, and blocking your own happiness and fulfilment.

❣️Take time to write down your feelings, your fears, and start to understand why you are denying yourself the life YOU want!

Namaste Vivienne ❣️

Our world chases noise, status and constant stimulation, however true happiness is calm and steady and requires you to "mind your own business" and only involve yourself in matters that concern you or you are asked!

Everyone has conflicts, correct... that my friend is a part of human relationships …

People will judge
People will leave
And people will misunderstand you....

And none of it is your business.

This statement is not about indifference; it is about understanding that your worth, your truth, and your journey are not dependent on external validation.

So stop and think if you have not been asked to help or give an opinion or its not your concern STOP getting involved in other people’s bu****it which has got nothing to do with you.

Every person views the world through the lens of their own experiences, biases, fears, and hopes.

Their judgments of "you" are but reflections of their own inner world, not an objective truth about who you are.

When you try to explain or justify your actions and thoughts to someone who does not see from your perspective, you risk being pulled into endless misunderstandings, which can become attempts to appease the ever-changing nature of someone else's perceptions, often clouded by their own illusions.

You cannot control the narrative in someone else’s mind, nor should you try.

Life can and will be overwhelming, however, focusing on your own path and emotional well-being will bring you inner peace and alignment.

Your FOCUS is a superpower.
Stay focused on your own path, because the energy spent on other people's lives is energy taken from your own growth.

However, you can indeed be that friend who shows compassion, empathy and be the confident they need in situations, but do know your place and remember your boundaries in another person's Life.

Mind your own business.

While on paper this sounds like great advice, there will be situations where someone is being mentally, physical or sexually abused - do NOT ignore please - if possible let someone know asap..
Sometimes there is a fine line between minding your business and possibly saving a life♡

Finally, Inner PEACE is not expensive - it is simple.

The wisdom lies in recognizing that your peace does not depend on whether others understand you.

It is not your duty to convince others of your truth.

In the end, the only person you need to answer to is yourself and the divine source within you.

Your thoughts and actions are shaped by your understanding of life, your lessons, your struggles, and your victories.
Let this be enough.

Stand firm in your truth, knowing that those who are meant to understand will, and those who are not, simply will not and that is perfectly fine.

Love, light and blessings beautiful - you are growing beautifully day by day ❤️

Vivienne

Most misunderstandings begin with assumptions.

Making an assumption that someone meant something they never actually said - perception over reality.

Communication can be a complicated thing, especially when there are emotions and history involved between the people.

And sometimes directness may sting at first, however it removes so much unnecessary uncertainty and suffering.

So next time you are communicating something remember often there is more than one way to interpretate a statement - be mindful with your words / statements.

Namaste ❤️

Sometimes the biggest decisions are not made with certainty. They are made with bravery, courage, self-trust and the willingness to move forward without having every answer - trust is paramount for yourself.

Growth often asks you to choose from who you are becoming, not who you used to be.

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