Bex Thomas Coaching

Your partner shouldn’t be your whole world. That’s what my Mum always told me and she was right (of course 🤣)

They should be part of a full, rich life you already have not the entire thing. Why? Because it’s too much pressure on one person and, it leaves less of you in the relationship too.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, because the same principle applies to work.

We’ve been conditioned to believe we should pour everything:

One job.
One identity.
One title.

And that if we don’t, we’re somehow less focused, less committed, less “serious.”
But I don’t think that’s true anymore.

I started building a portfolio career around 4 years ago, and it changed everything.

Now I don’t just have one job that defines me I have multiple strands of work that reflect different parts of who I am and instead of diluting things, it’s deepened them.

More perspective.
More creativity.
More energy.

There’s something really powerful about not putting all your eggs (or your identity) in one basket. Because when everything depends on one thing working, the pressure is enormous.

But when your life and work are diversified you get to breathe a little.

You get to experiment.
You get to expand.

You get to be more of yourself in different rooms.

And ironically?
You become better at all of it.

I like to think I’m now:
💍 monogamous in love
💼 diversified in career

And that balance feels a lot more honest for how I want to live now.

Have you ever thought about what a portfolio version of your career could look like?

I just want to stop the snowball!!!

So many of the amazing humans I work with arrive feeling like they need to “figure it all out” before they begin.

Like it has to be serious, structured, intense, or slightly overwhelming to be valid. But what actually helps is something very different.

Feeling safe enough to explore properly and supported enough to keep going.

Feeling grounded enough to make decisions without rushing or spiralling.

This client came to me because she wanted to stop the snowball.

To slow things down and to choose her next chapter with intention, not pressure.

That’s exactly what XRoads is designed for.

A 6-session structured process that helps you:

✨ slow the noise down
✨ get clear on what actually matters to you now
✨ move forward with direction, confidence, and calm momentum

Not by forcing decisions but by creating the space to see them clearly.

I work with a very small number of clients at a time so that the process stays personal, deep, and properly supportive.

If you’re in that place where everything feels like it’s shifting but you don’t want to rush the next step then let’s chat.

You don’t have to keep carrying it all in your head alone and you definitely can stop the snowball!!

🌿 There is no such thing as an overnight success 🌿

Sorry to be the bearer of mildly inconvenient news.

Being back in our semi-renovated 15th-century barn in Brittany has reminded me of this in a very real way lately.

Because here’s what “the dream” actually looked like:

👉 4 years to finish a bathroom renovation
(2 years showering in the shed, then the utility room 😅)

👉 4 years to confidently make my first proper phone call in French to a government department and actually be understood and get the outcome I needed.

👉 4 years for the garden to even vaguely resemble the vision in my head.

👉 10 years for the life I imagined on my sabbatical to become my actual reality.

Ten years.

Not ten weeks.
Not ten months.

This is the bit we don’t talk about enough.

We see the house, the business, the freedom, the career pivot, the confidence and quietly assume it arrived in one brave, linear moment of certainty.

But underneath almost every “I’m so glad I did this” moment is usually:

😬 uncertainty
😬 second-guessing
😬 trial and error
😬 waiting longer than expected
😬 and doing things before they feel ready

So if life feels a little slower, messier or less figured out than you hoped right now maybe you’re not behind.

Maybe you’re just in the middle of becoming.

What’s taking longer than you expected right now? 🌿

🌿 Three incredible humans have just completed the XRoads Program 🌿

Which means I’m opening up 3 new coaching spaces starting in June.

Over the past month, I’ve worked with:

A management consultant.
A sales manager.
And a recruiter.

Different careers. Same initial prompt…

👉 “Something needs to change… but I don’t yet know what.”

And over 6 sessions, I watched that shift into:

✨ clarity
✨ confidence
✨ and a grounded, practical plan for what comes next

Steady movement from confusion → clarity.

It’s a feeling I see a lot:

On the outside, life looks fine.
You’re still capable.
Still ambitious.
Still performing.

But inside… something has started to shift.

You find yourself wondering:

Is this still right for me?
What else is possible now?
How do I change something without blowing everything up?

If that’s you, you’re not alone and you don’t need to figure it out by yourself.

This is exactly why I created XRoads 🌿

A 6-session structured coaching process designed to help you:

✨ get clear on what you actually want next
✨ reconnect with your values (not just expectations)
✨ build confidence in your decisions
✨ create a realistic roadmap for your next chapter

No dramatic exits.
No chaos.
No pressure to have it all figured out.

Just thoughtful, supported progress towards a life that fits better than the one you’re currently tolerating.

Right now, I have 3 spaces opening in June.

If something in this resonates…

👉 DM me and let’s have a conversation.

I left a life people thought I’d never leave.

For the second time 🤣

In 2022, we moved from Australia to France and emigrated for the second time.

Sydney was everything people dream about.

☀️ Endless sunshine
☕ Coffee culture you build your life around
🍸 Long, warm evenings that start as “just one drink”
🌊 Sunrise ocean dips before work
⛴️ A ferry commute that felt like a daily reset, not a journey to work

It was a beautiful life and one I had spent 12 years building since leaving the UK.

Nothing was wrong.
Not even close.

So when people ask “why leave?” I never have a simple answer.

Because I didn’t leave out of unhappiness, I left because something quieter started to surface.
A feeling of… is this it?

What I wanted started to shift.

More depth.
More connection.
More proximity to family.

Sunday lunches that didn’t require a 24-hour flight.

Spontaneous moments instead of scheduled catch-ups.

A life that felt as good on the inside as it looked on paper.

Leaving Sydney wasn’t an escape, it was a response to the idea that even a “perfect” life can still evolve.

We don’t talk about that enough. You can love your life and still outgrow it.

Have you ever felt that quiet pull for something more, even when everything looked like it should be enough?

✨ ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT to sign up to 2025’s Best-Seller ✨

If you’re craving a change in 2026, a real one but you’re not quite sure what it looks like or how to get there then this is your sign.

This is my signature six-session program that’s helped dozens of people step out of the “I should be grateful” loop and into a life that actually feels like theirs.

Think clarity, confidence, unstoppable momentum without needing to blow up your life overnight.

If 2025 was the year you felt the pull
Let 2026 be the year you FOLLOW it.

I only have TWO spots left before I close doors until March 2026.

Once these two go, that’s it for the year.

Why? Because on 11th December my rhythm shifts down a gear.

🇬🇧 I’m spending a magical Christmas with family in the UK
🇰🇭 Exploring Cambodia in January
🇻🇳 Finishing what we started in Vietnam at the bridging of the year in February.

So, I only have space for two more clients until I land back in Oz in March and pick up my pace again! 🇦🇺

You see, I live what I teach and have designed my life around my own rules and rhythm 🤪

If you want:

✨ crystal-clear direction
✨ a tailored plan you’re excited about
✨ support as you step into your next chapter
✨ and a coach who sees both your potential and your humanness

Then XRoads is where we do the work. Together.

DM me or comment XRoads and I’ll send you a discovery call link.

Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate 💛

This is what happens when you give yourself 8 months to dream, 5 years to plan, and 3 years to build. ✨

2016: sunburnt and smiling in Portugal on my career break, recovering from 15 years of the corporate grind… a little lost in purpose and direction.

2025: pressing apples in the French countryside, turning our own fruit into homemade cider. Feeling 100% at home, content, and clear on exactly who and what I want to be.

Between these two moments? Nine years.

🧚🏼‍♀️ 8 months dreaming, that first career break where I finally asked, “What do I actually want my life to look like?”

📅 5 years planning, back in “normal life,” saving, showing up to work, holding onto the dream even when it felt miles away.

🏡 3 years executing, slowly bringing the vision to life: renovating a barn, creating seasons across France, the UK, and Australia, building a life around freedom, sunshine, and people.

The reality? Making cider from our own apple trees in France. 🍏

It didn’t happen overnight.

It wasn’t linear.

It took patience, courage, and plenty of “what on earth are we doing?” moments.

Sometimes the most meaningful change doesn’t come from a leap… it comes from a slow, steady walk in the direction of what matters most.

👉 What’s your dream, and what’s one small step you could take today to move closer to it?

✨ “Working with you has been an absolute game changer.”

When this amazing human first came to me, they were lost.

Unsure what direction to take.
Overthinking every option.
Afraid of making the wrong move.

Fast forward a few sessions…

They now have a clear vision for their career and the confidence to go after it. 💫

That kind of transformation doesn’t come from a single “aha” moment. It comes from slowing down, asking the right questions, and rebuilding trust in yourself, one small decision at a time.

Seeing that shift from confusion to clarity, from fear to confidence is why I do what I do.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, unsure, or ready for change but don’t know where to start… Maybe this is your sign. 🤍

✨ What’s one thing you wish felt clearer in your career right now?

💡 There’s more than one currency when designing your work.

When I’m partnering with the wonderful humans who are considering their next career chapter, I encourage them to think beyond 💵 money.

Because when you design work that truly works for you, there are other currencies worth just as much (if not more):

⏳ Time; flexibility, shorter weeks, remote work
⚡ Energy; a role that fuels you instead of draining you
🌍 Purpose; knowing your work actually matters
🕊️ Freedom; the ability to live life on your terms.

Yes, money matters. But it’s not the only thing on the table.

And when you’re negotiating your next role, remembering this can change everything.

✨ What’s your number one currency right now?

🚦 Stuck at a career crossroads?

⁉️Really need a change?

You’re not broken, you’re human, and humans evolve.

I work with professionals every day who:

➡️ Know deep down their current path isn’t right
➡️ Feel exhausted, stuck, or burnt out
➡️ Don’t know what’s next, but know it’s not this

That’s exactly why I created The XRoads Program 💫

A 6-session coaching + mentoring journey that takes you from:

❌ Confusion → ✅ Clarity → 🚀 Confident action.

Here’s what we cover together:

1️⃣ Setting goals & getting clear on what’s not working
2️⃣ Defining your life + career vision
3️⃣ Understanding your values & strengths
4️⃣ Exploring possibilities: If not this, then what?
5️⃣ Building your bridge to change
6️⃣ Crafting your personalised action plan

The result? You’ll walk away with:

✨ Clarity; what you really want (and what’s holding you back)
✨ Confidence; belief that you can achieve it
✨ Direction; a flexible roadmap to start your next chapter

💬 Over the past 2 years, this has been my most popular program. Why?

Because it works.

If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and start building a life + career that excites you:

📩 DM me, I have 2 spots open for October.