Jessica Adams

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We may not realise when we have weak boundaries if we grew up in an environment where boundaries were rarely respected. It may be difficult for us to identify when we start to feel small, neglected, or resentful because we may have become desensitised to these experiences.

Repeated experiences in our lives start to feel normal to us even when they are not good for us.

As children, if we were not given healthy permission to say no, then we may have difficulty to be okay with saying no in adulthood.

If we never learned to take up space, then we may be later challenged to express our opinions and thoughts in a room full of people.

If there was no room to talk about our emotions growing up, then it might be hard for us to name what we are feeling and acknowledge it.

The good news is that we all have the power to change. Our brains create new patterns and behaviors through neuroplasticity. It takes more work on our end initially, but with consistent practice, these behaviors become automatic to us. However, the first step is understanding ourselves better. How were your boundaries violated and neglected in the past? How does that impact your ability to set boundaries for yourself?

The key to starting this work is exploring this with curiosity instead of judgement 💛