Relationship talk with Moses Joseph Uteno

YOU WANT TO DUMP HIM FOR A RICH DUDE BECAUSE HE IS POOR.

If you're thinking of dumping your man for a rich dude because he is poor you need to read this article before making that decision. It is very dangerous to leave a man who has vision simply because he is not financially stable today, you don't know what his tomorrow holds.

Its OK to leave a man who is not financially stable and who does not have a plan, vision or structure for his life, but it is not OK to leave a man who has serious plans and is working effortlessly to make his plans a reality.

Before you leave a man, take out time to access him, don't think with your heart, think with your brain, try to put the dots together, watch how he reacts to issues, take a close look at his plans, what are his visions like, what are his dreams and aspirations, what are his approach to the future.

If you find out he has good plans, he has great plans for the future help him achieve the plans his has, don't leave a man who has big plans and is seriously pursing it for a man who has money now, you don't know what will happen the next minute, what if he looses all the money?

Before you leave a man who is poor today make sure you have really thought about it, you don't know what his tomorrow holds, That a man is rich is not a guarantee that he will make you happy, money does not guarantee happiness.

Don't be in a haste to end your relationship take your time and make sure you don't make decisions that you will regret for the rest of your life.

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Moses Joseph Uteno
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WAYS TO KNOW YOU'RE DATING A MATURE MAN.

Dating a mature man often feels calm, intentional, and emotionally safe not confusing or draining.
Here are some strong signs:

1. He communicates clearly — You don't have to guess how he feels or where you stand. He speaks honestly, listens well, and handles difficult conversations respectfully.

2. He is consistent — His words match his actions. He doesn't disappear, make endless excuses, or give mixed signals.

3. He respects your boundaries — A mature man understands that love includes respect. He won't pressure you emotionally, financially, or physically.

4. He takes responsibility for his mistakes — Instead of blaming everyone else, he apologizes sincerely and works on improving.

5. He supports your growth — He wants to see you succeed emotionally, financially, spiritually, and professionally not compete with you.

6. He handles conflict calmly — He doesn't insult, manipulate, shout unnecessarily, or threaten to leave during every disagreement.

7. He is emotionally stable — He knows how to control anger, express emotions properly, and communicate without childish games.

8. He values peace over ego — Being "right" all the time is not more important to him than understanding and protecting the relationship.

9. He plans for the future — A mature man thinks long-term. He talks seriously about goals, finances, commitment, family, and stability.

10. He respects women genuinely — Not just you the way he speaks about other women, his mother, exes, coworkers, and service staff says a lot.

11. He gives reassurance naturally — You feel secure, not constantly anxious about
losing him or questioning his intentions.

12. He has self-discipline — Whether it's finances, habits, work, or relationships, he understands control and responsibility.

13. He doesn't play mind games — No unnecessary jealousy tactics, manipulation, silent treatment, or attention-seeking behavior.

14. He protects your dignity — Even during arguments, he avoids embarrassing or disrespecting you publicly or privately.

15. You feel more peaceful than confused — One of the biggest signs of maturity is emotional peace. Healthy love usually feels steady, not chaotic.

A mature relationship may not always be dramatic or "movie-like," but it often feels safe, balance, secure and intentional.

LADIES THESE ARE THE KINDS OF MEN YOU SHOULD NEVER GET MARRIED TO.

1. A man without a mind of his own, always copying the life decisions of friends even when he doesn’t understand. Eg. Friend marries another wife, he has to copy it.

2. Mummy’s boy whose life is controlled by his mother so cannot even be the head of his own home without seeking approval. Eg mummy has to decide the name of our children

3. A community joke, the one that’s always clowning around and never taken seriously by anyone. Eg getting teased and insulted but laughing with them for validation

4. A man that melts around women and needs to satisfy all. The one that’s always called to run errands or be of one service or the other. Eg “hello, where are you? Leave whatever you are doing and come now, I need to go to the bank”

5. A man that cannot control his emotions; be it rage, sadness or even sexual.

6. A man without any tangible ambition

7. A man who doesn’t believe in God

8. A man who listens to nobody and cannot be corrected

9. A man with a dirty income and criminal tendencies

10. A man who has little or no regard for you

BEFORE YOU SAY YES I DO.

Ask the hard questions now, or live with hard answers later
1. Faith & Values
a. What does God truly mean to you in daily life?
b. How do you make decisions when Scripture and emotions clash?
(Ask on biblical beliefs and Values as well. Don’t neglect your faith and walk with God before getting married to anyone, else, you will be building on a Wrong foundation)

2. Money
a. How do you view money and spend money?
b. Saving, spending, debt, generosity etc.

3. Conflict
a. When you’re angry, do you shut down, shout, or seek peace?
b. How were conflicts handled in your family growing up? And is that your picture for your own home?
c. What is your conflict resolution style? Third party settlement, silence or talking?

4. Family & Boundaries
a. Who comes first after marriage—spouse or extended family?
b. What boundaries are non-negotiable?

5. Children & Parenting
a. Do you want children? How many?
b. Discipline, schooling, spiritual training—what’s your vision?

6. Purpose & Direction
a. Where do you see your life going in the next 5–10 years?
b. How do you support your partner’s calling without competing?

7. S*x, Intimacy & Expectations
a. How do you communicate needs without shame or manipulation?
b. What does faithfulness look like to you practically?

8. Healing & Emotional Health
a. What wounds are you still carrying?
b. Are you willing to heal, not bleed on your partner?

9. Roles & Responsibilities
a. Who handles what—finances, chores, leadership?
b. Are these based on culture, conviction, or convenience?

10. Deal-Breakers
a. What can you tolerate?
b. What can you never accept?
Marriage doesn’t reveal character, it exposes it.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. This is the best time to talk. Before you say I DO!

7 Fascinating Psychological Insights Into Love and Relationships:

1. Lingering feelings: It's painful to admit, but sometimes we still love the person who broke our heart. Acknowledging these feelings is the first step toward healing.

2. The power of silence: In some cases, saying nothing can hurt more than words. Silence can be a potent tool in relationships, but use it wisely.

3. Setting love free: The old adage "if you love something, set it free" holds truth. Releasing your grip on someone or something allows you to see if it's truly meant to be yours.

4. Signs of genuine interest: When someone is genuinely interested in you, they'll make an effort to stay in touch, offer compliments, and prioritize spending time with you.

5. Hidden feelings: The longer you conceal your true feelings for someone, the deeper your emotions can grow. Be honest with yourself and others to avoid unnecessary heartache.

6. Relationship realities: Sometimes, relationships don't get better with time; we just become more accustomed to the dynamics. It's essential to recognize when a relationship is truly fulfilling or just comfortable.

7. Pride vs. love: Don't let pride come between you and your loved ones. Be willing to swallow your pride for the sake of love, but never compromise your love for the sake of ego.