Chai with Parul

Set yourself free.

💋Free of expectations of being a certain someone
💋Free to be your authentic self
💋Free to love and be loved

Freedom that comes from and is rooted in love for yourself and others is absolutely beautiful 🥰

Free yourself and listen to your deepest, divine self.

You are loved. I already love you fully and truly ❤️

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And I don’t mean it in a rude way.

But let’s look at this way: If you BELIEVE you are too much, everything you do, experience, and witness will prove this point. If you put your outlook on what you are on others, this mindset may shift. But in the end, you’ll always say “I was right, I am too much”….

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We all have a monster inside of us.

Or at least, we THINK it’s a monster. This monster is very critical and mean. It doesn’t think we are good enough. It believes that we don’t deserve much.

But this monster isn’t really a monster. She is scared. He is fearful. They are not feeling safe.

And when those are the feelings of this inner being, of course they lash out. Of course they don’t believe anything can be better.

Caring for the inner monster, befriending it. That’s the single most important thing you can do.

You aren’t there to change her. You aren’t there to tell him that he’s crazy. You aren’t wanting to wish them away.

You MUST embrace them and come from a place of compassion and empathy.

That is the first step in your healing journey. You are the person this inner monster needs. Because then, it doesn’t become this scary monster. But a little kid, who just needs some love.

How will you show kindness to yourself today?

Empathy can be a trauma response

And look, I’m not saying empathy is bad. It’s good to have empathy, but to a certain extent.

These are phrases I’ve heard my fellow empaths say:
- THEY drain me
- I don’t want THEM to feel bad
- I can tell exactly what THEY are feeling
- I need to help/fix THEM or THIER situation

None of these (as you can tell my subtle emphasis) are about YOU. It’s all about THEM.

We tend to “take on” other people’s emotions in order to fix them, because negative emotions are hard. And “take on” others emotions when it’s nice cause it’s easier.

Empaths are constantly looking for OTHER PEOPLE and EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES to help them feel emotions.

UNDERSTANDING is very different than taking them on. And that’s when empathy can be a superpower, instead of a super drainer.

Learning that YOU are amazing and perfect the way you can be the first awareness step. Head to the link in my bio for a FREE how to enjoy being you workbook

Happiest birthday to my (not so) little brother!!

Relationships aren’t just romantic ones. Familial, platonic, friendship. These are all different types of relationships and love.

With the 2 of us, how we express love to each other is very different. And the thing is, there isn’t any instance that I think he doesn’t love me. Regardless of us not talking for awhile, or us arguing, or anything else.

Because it’s all my decision. The feeling and understanding of love is very intrinsic. When he does something, I know it’s from love.

Because I’ve already decided.

And it doesn’t mean I let everything slide. It doesn’t mean I just take everything at face value. We still argue and get frustrated, but in the end it’s my decision (just as much as it’s his) on whether we know that it’s love.

Here’s to many more years of being pushy with all my woo (I did a tarot card reading for him today 😋) and him focusing on the science and facts. With all my love ❤️

P.S. he’s also an amazing artist! Give him a follow .art

HDB U.S.A. 🇺🇸

While it’s a day to celebrate Independence. It’s also a day to ask “what does it mean to be American?”

So much has happened this past year that it’s a question I think we all need to ask.

I’m brown skinned. Ethnically, I’m Indian. And my Nationality is American. I was born in California and have lived here my entire life.

While that makes me a citizen, what I believe makes someone “American” is acceptance. People migrated here in order to freely practice their religion and be who they are. To aspire to be something they didn’t think possible elsewhere.

But when that religion or dream isn’t the same in everyone, we judge. We scorn. We become afraid.

We are all so different, yet exactly the same.

While this day is about freedom of our country, ask yourself what you are doing to honor that freedom. In yourself AND for others.

Hugs and kisses! Love you all ❤️ 💋