06/23/2026
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There's a quiet pressure in parenting to always have the answer, to know exactly what to say, exactly how to fix it, exactly what comes next. And when we don't, it can feel like we're failing at the one job we're supposed to have figured out.
But pretending to have all the answers actually teaches our children something we don't intend: that not knowing is something to hide, that uncertainty is shameful, that the adults in their life are supposed to be all-knowing rather than human.
The truth is, "I don't know" is one of the most honest and connecting things you can say to your child.
When you say "I don't know, let's figure it out together," you're not losing authority; you're modeling something far more valuable, that it's okay to not have every answer, that uncertainty doesn't mean failure, and that working through hard things together is what relationships are actually built on.
Research on trust and attachment shows that children develop deeper trust in caregivers who are authentic rather than those who project constant certainty. Authenticity, even messy and uncertain, builds connection. Pretending to always know best builds distance, because eventually children learn that the confident answers weren't always real.
This isn't about being unsure all the time or lacking confidence as a parent. It's about being honest when you genuinely don't know, and showing your child that not knowing isn't the end of the conversation; it's simply the beginning of figuring it out side by side.
06/23/2026
Being proactive with acceptance of your child’s struggles with Reading skills is the first step in making them a better reader. Reading skills need to be practiced and reinforced over and over again and be developmentally appropriate. 🤓💻📖📚
06/09/2026
💜💙🩷 Regulation is a process that should be taught for sure!
This might be one of the most important things we are not talking about enough as a society.
We pour billions into the criminal justice system, into addiction treatment, into mental health crisis intervention… and yet we still don’t prioritize teaching children how to understand and regulate their emotions. We treat the consequences but not the root.
Here’s what the research tells us:
❤️ Children who develop emotional regulation skills are less likely to turn to substances to cope with pain they don’t know how to process.
❤️ They are less likely to respond to conflict with aggression.
❤️ They are more likely to build healthy relationships, make thoughtful decisions under pressure, and navigate the inevitable hard moments of life without falling apart or hurting others.
Because when a child learns to sit with discomfort, to name what they’re feeling, to calm their nervous system instead of acting from it, they are building the most important life skill there is.
✨ Emotional regulation isn’t a soft skill; it’s a survival skill.
And it starts at home, in the small everyday moments. When you help your child name their feelings instead of dismissing them, when you stay calm during their storm instead of escalating and when you model what it looks like to take a breath, feel something hard, and choose your response instead of just reacting.
✨ You are not just raising a child; you are shaping the kind of human they will be in every room they walk into for the rest of their life. ✨
And that is not a small thing; that is everything! 💜
06/06/2026
CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) vs. DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) is critical when deciding what a teenager, young adult, or adults need. Level 1 are triggers that we don't even realize exist! They send us into a whirlwind of psychosis that would have been stopped had we known how to regulate ourselves.
Anger. What triggers your anger ?
06/06/2026
These are great “catch phrases” when saying good bye that help autistic students start talking. 🐊🦋🐝
Comment 'LATER' for the link to another F-R-E-E-B-I-E.
06/05/2026
Fabulous point about data driven instruction - this is particularly important when it alludes to gaps and inconsistencies. Constant diagnostics out of context, show how the student is generalizing content from one situation to the next. Working memory is a struggle for students with special needs.
Are your diagnostic assessments driving instruction — or just checking a box?
At Madison School District 321 in Idaho, data shapes daily teaching decisions. Instead of asking “Who qualifies?” educators ask, “What does this student need next?”
That shift led to stronger skill retention and more precise intervention.
Read the full story: https://95pg.info/4d5q1IF
05/20/2026
I am now on the "ADDitude" Directory. Please visit my profile for Information on Engage Learning TX. 📣📣📣
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