Shattered Glass Coaching

I've been coaching women through their careers for over 6 years. Here are the leadership patterns I’ve seen in the most successful women. They know the difference between busy and productive. They’re clear on what their priorities are and they know exactly what they’re saying NO to in order to achieve their goals. They’re focused on strategic visibility. They’re not sitting around waiting to be picked or noticed. They show up visibly every single week. They accept they can’t please everyone all the time. They’d rather be respected than liked. They ask for what they want. They don’t just hope someone reads their mind and gives them a promotion. They speak up and advocate for themselves. These aren’t personality traits - they are intentional choices made consistently over time. If you're seeing patterns in yourself and your career that you don't love, that's okay. Awareness is a starting point. The next steps is to rewire those patterns so you can be more successful.

Perfectly polished communication feels inauthentic. At the leadership level, many women tend to over-polish their communication. You might rewrite an email seven times until it’s perfect, rehearse a job interview answer until it sounds rehearsed, or get rid of anything that feels too personal or too casual. People can feel the difference between a real human and a polished script. Polished feels safe. Real feels memorable. The leaders who have the greatest influence and the strongest connections aren't the most polished in the room. They're the ones who sound most authentically like themselves.

Here’s an expensive mistake that I’ve seen a lot of women at the Director level make. My clients are surprised when I point this out. They have no 2-year plan. The concrete, specific plan for what the next 24 months actually look like. → What role do you want to be in two years from now? → Which companies are you targeting? → How are you improving your leadership skills? → Who is in your network? → What's your salary trajectory? Two years out is close enough to be specific, but far enough to actually plan for. Without it, you're being reactive. A 2-year plan allows you to be proactive, strategic, and set yourself up for success. The Directors I work with who move into VP roles or the C-Suite are working a 2-year plan. They’re being proactive, consistent, and strategic.

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Your career should incorporate things you’re good at AND things you love to do. It sounds obvious, right? But so many women I talk to are stuck in jobs they’re good at, but don’t love. This is a simple exercise to help you reflect on your skills (what you’re good at) and your passions (what you love), then compare both lists. How can you create a career that includes both?

Success means different things to different people. My version of success could look totally different from your version of success. And that’s okay! We’re different people and value different things. In chapter 1 of my book, Authentic Success, I walk you through exercises to determine your core values, and your vision of success. Click the link in my bio to grab the book today.

Here’s a networking mistake I see women make too often. Networking isn't about meeting more people. It's about being top of mind with the RIGHT people. The mistake: You only reach out when you need something. You disappear for a year, then DM someone "Hey, I'm looking, can you keep me in mind?" That's not networking. It’s transactional and people can smell it from a mile away. What to do instead: Stay in light, consistent contact with 20-30 people who actually matter for your career. Not 200. Not 500. Just the 20-30 who could materially impact your next move. Send them an article, congratulate them on a promotion, comment on their LinkedIn post, and meet up for coffee every few months. Have a real relationship that you maintain consistently. You stay on their radar and have a real connection. When you need something later, you're not making a transactional ask. You're tapping a relationship. Build the relationships before you need a favor!

Do you feel like you can truly be yourself at work? Or do you feel like you have to perform and show up as a different version of yourself- the polished and professional version? It’s a tough line to walk. You want to be respected and see as professional. You want to do all the right things to get promoted and increase your salary. But you also want to feel like YOU. Performing at work can feel exhausting. It’s how a lot of people burn out and get desperate to leave their job. This is what I talk about in Chapter 3 of my book, Authentic Success: A Guide for Ambitious Women to Build Aligned Careers and Lives. Link to grab a copy of the book is in my bio!

Research shows that the average person has about 6,000 thoughts per day and 80% of them are negative. We are literally programmed to think negatively. This matters because negative thoughts create negative outcomes in your life. This is why mindset work matters so much.