Chief Psycho

One of the biggest mistakes I see online is the tendency to treat symptoms and causes as if they’re the same thing.

Fatigue isn’t a diagnosis.

Brain fog isn’t a diagnosis.

Difficulty concentrating isn’t a diagnosis.

They’re observations.

The question is what’s contributing to them.

Mental exhaustion and neuroinflammation can produce remarkably similar experiences while emerging from very different processes.

Understanding the difference isn’t about becoming your own clinician.

It’s about becoming a more informed observer of your own experience.

I want to be reincarnated as Vino. 🍷

Today’s the day! 🥳

Over 200 leaders have already registered for Stop Holding Everything: Why Your Leadership Style Is Creating Instability.

One of the most common patterns I see in leadership isn’t a lack of effort.

It’s carrying too much.

Taking on more responsibility.
Absorbing more pressure.
Managing more tension.
Becoming the person everyone depends on to keep things moving.

At first, it looks like strong leadership.

Over time, it can quietly create dependency, instability, and exhaustion throughout the system.

Today, we’ll explore what happens when leaders become the structure their teams rely on and what it looks like to create psychological safety and stability without absorbing everything around them.

I’m also excited to be joined by Marissa (MARISSA • DENTAL MARKETING EDUCATOR + LEADER), who will help ground these concepts in the reality of leading teams and navigating pressure inside growing organizations.

This conversation is especially meaningful because it serves as the foundation for the deeper work we’ll continue inside our upcoming Q2 ZIAversity Cohort with ZIA • Talent in Motion.

If you’ve ever thought: “Why does everything eventually end up on my plate?”

This session is for you.

📅 Today
⏰ 3:00 PM PDT
🔗 Registration link in bio

Happiest of birthdays to my bsf, .phx!! Excited to celebrate another 15 years of birthdays with you. Love you! 🩵

Last week, I was reminded that migraines don’t care what’s on your calendar.

I’ve had migraines since I was 16.

Usually, I can feel them coming. The aura. The changes in vision. The subtle warning signs that tell me my brain is about to have other plans.

But last week’s migraine attacks were different.

It lasted nearly 10 hours and was the longest one I’ve experienced in ~6 years. Then another followed shortly after.

The timing wasn’t lost on me.

I had just spent a few days back in Arizona, and while I can’t say with certainty what triggered it, the experience reminded me why moving to the coast was one of the best decisions I ever made for my health.

What many people don’t realize is that migraines aren’t simply headaches.

They’re a complex neurological condition that can affect vision, sensory processing, cognition, mood, energy, and even your ability to think clearly. The pain is only one piece of the experience.

Research estimates that migraine affects roughly 1 in 7 people worldwide and remains one of the leading causes of disability for adults under 50.

For me, the hardest part has never been the pain alone.

It’s the unpredictability.

The canceled plans.
The lost productivity.
The feeling of watching an entire day disappear.

I created this AI infographic because I wanted to better understand what was actually happening inside my brain and share some of that understanding with others.

If you’ve ever experienced migraines, you know they’re far more than “just a headache.”

According to The Daily Whimsy:

✔ Main character energy
✔ Certified good vibes
✔ Local legend status

For once, I have no notes. 😜

One of the more interesting cultural shifts happening right now is the way millennials are rethinking achievement.

Many of us were raised on some version of the same message:
• Work hard
• Stay available
• Keep achieving
• Success will follow

And for a lot of people, it did.

The problem is that achievement doesn’t automatically create fulfillment.

Research on contingent self-worth, burnout, and self-determination suggests that people need more than performance to thrive. They also need autonomy, connection, meaning, and a sense of agency over their lives.

What I’m noticing isn’t a generation becoming less ambitious.

It’s a generation becoming more intentional.

Still driven. Still capable.

Just increasingly unwilling to sacrifice their health, relationships, identity, and well-being in pursuit of goals that no longer feel aligned.

That’s a very different conversation than laziness and probably a healthier one.

Throwback Thursday before I head back to Arizona next week to celebrate my bestie’s birthday and continue my work as everyone’s favorite guncle 🌵

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