Keeley Rankin, MA

Have you ever felt in a conversation like you’re talking to a brick wall?

You’re explaining as as you can, with a soft voice and still not being understood?

What’s going on?

Try shifting how you communicate. Speak directly from your experience, be very specific, and ask the other person what they think they heard you say (in a kind and soft tone).

If they respond without understanding, explain yourself again, when you can be direct, yet keep it simple.

If you become triggered (meaning your heart rate goes up and you start feeling hot), take a small break from the conversation and come back another time.

You deserve to be heard! You got this!

Do you need a partner for an orga$m?

Technically… no.

In my conversation with Liz and Dave on Utah Marriage Commission, we got into the conversations couples are not having enough: orga$ms, desire, physical connection, intimacy shifts in long-term relationships, and what actually keeps couples feeling close.

Because intimacy is not just about whether you *can* experience pleasure. It’s about how you stay connected, desired, curious, and physically involved with one another through different seasons of life.

Tune in to hear my full talk with Liz and Dave 💬

🎙️Podcast: Stronger Marriage Connection Podcast
🎧Stream on: YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music & Spotify

This but actually screaming and jumping for joy because they texted back...

A lot of people push harder for answers when their partner shuts down...yet that often creates more distance!

Three things I recommend:
* Lead with curiosity, not accusations or blaming
* Slow down and lessen the intensity of the moment
* Focus on understanding, not trying to winning

Shifting the way you ask changes the entire conversation.

A little exciting news from earlier last month... I was featured in () HuffPost sharing my perspective on the “Kivin Method” and the role that communication, exploration, and connection play in intimacy.

I’m always grateful for opportunities to bring these conversations into more mainstream spaces in an informed, approachable, and shame-free way.

Head to the full HuffPost feature through the link in my bio!

In my experience working with individuals & couples, one of the biggest things that disconnects people from pleasure is the pressure to “do intimacy right.”

When you’re focused on performance, overthinking, or how you’re being perceived, you leave your body and miss the subtle sensations that actually create connection and pleasure.

The deepest intimacy doesn’t come from perfect technique. It comes being fully present to experience exactly what is happening.