Aligned Living - G Rozenkrantz

If you want to reduce your yelling you need to understand WHY you yell, which involves learning about the nervous system and how it works. Once we learn how the nervous system works, we are usually able to use that knowledge to become more aware of our triggers before we yell. It also gives us more control over our nervous system when we understand how to self-regulate.

Attachment, brain development and the nervous system all play a part in the dysregulation we see in our child. Often there are other factors too but these are the aspects that impact all children. Remember that a healthy nervous system still experiences dysregulation. A mature and healthy nervous system is flexible. Our goal should be to have a flexible nervous system, not so much a regulated one.

Throughout my healing journey I have spent countless hours, days and months thinking, reading and writing about nervous system regulation. It started by trying to understand co-regulation.

What I initially believed, was that the goal was to have a nervous system that was regulated most of time. What I discovered was the goal is actually to have a flexible nervous system, because our nervous system is meant to fluctuate. Having autonomic awareness allows us to build our nervous system flexibility and emotional intelligence.

Also, co-regulation is one of the best ways to build nervous system flexibility. So if a child receives lots of opportunities for co-regulation from a young age, they are more likely to have nervous system flexibility, throughout their lives. Whereas, if we did not experience effective co-regulation, from birth, we may find we have to teach ourselves those skills later in life.

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We've been taught that rest is earned. You can earn it by overworking, overachieving, and overdoing it. Even though we can rest and understand that it would be beneficial, we still resist. We try to prove our worth by what we get done, which means we always feel like we have to do more. Within this broken measuring system, our efforts will never be enough. Let’s redefine this measuring system and do what writer and psychologist, Nicola Jane Hobbs suggests, “Instead of asking, ‘Have I worked hard enough to deserve rest?’ ask, ‘Have I rested enough to do my most loving, meaningful work?”

Weaving with Stars https://odysseymagazine.co.za/weaving-with-stars/

My lastest article for the 250th edition of Odyssey Magazine

And yes! May we all, weave with stars 🌟 🌟

Weaving with Stars Once upon a time, there was a night when I asked the Earth to take me. I prayed and bled tears, begged for a hole to open beneath me and swallow me whole. The inner unravelling was too much to bear. I lay in a field of wild grass, the only light in a vast and aching dark was the swollen full moon, p...